Here are a few tips to make this time as pain free as possible for all.
On results day, be sensitive towards other families. If Friday brings good news, you and your child may wish to shout it from the rooftops. However be aware there will be disappointed parents and children at the school gate, who will appreciate discretion and sensitivity.

Nurture your child’s self-esteem at this time. Let them know that whatever they achieved, you are proud of the effort they made.

Consider carefully before launching an appeal. Listen to and act upon the advice of your primary school Headteacher and take time to consider carefully the right way forward. Scraping in and then struggling to keep up with the fast academic pace may not be the right environment for your child. All parents have a choice. Be careful to ensure it is a considered one that is relevant and appropriate for your child. School decisions should never be made through emotion, pressure from other parents or concern for what others may think. Also remember siblings are different and often require different school environments to nurture their individual potential.

The 11+ is not about pass or fail. It is designed to assess potential for a child to thrive at grammar school and as such requires a set level of attainment to be eligible for a place. Don’t speak badly of any secondary school incase your child is allocated a place there. A proactive parent who engages with the school to support their child’s education must reassure their child that they will be successful and happy wherever they go to school.

Tips for parents preparing for Bucks 11+ results day – Are you nervously awaiting Buckinghamshire 11+ results on 30th November?

Plan to get out of the house. Waiting to ambush the postman won’t change the outcome and may whip you up into a frenzy of nerves.

If you receive positive news praise, reward and celebrate, but be sensitive to other children and parents for whom the news may not have been so good. Jumping for joy at the school gates when other parents and children may be disappointed is not very community spirited. This might be a good time for your child to learn modesty and sensitivity amongst peers.

If unsuccessful, give your child space and time to come to terms with the news. Hide your own feelings at all costs. When ready, discuss handling questions about results from schoolmates and remind them of the support structure around them. Talk positively about Plan B. If you have options such as an independent or free school, review them again. Highlight opportunities to make new friends and try different activities or subjects.

If the result was unexpected and you feel strongly that grammar is the right environment for your child, discuss the result with their Headteacher. Ask if there is cause and academic evidence to support your view. If in mutual agreement, apply for a Selection Review Pack. Submit your request form and evidence by 14th Dec 2012.

Be aware that your child’s confidence may have taken a knock. Continue to reassure and praise them for their achievements over the coming weeks and months and about their future schooling. However, try not to be consumed by it!

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Tips on applying for a Bucks secondary school place.
The 11+ tests are over for another year. Whilst awaiting results due on 11th October, parents’ thoughts turn towards secondary school preferences via the Common Application Form (CAF). For the first time, parents will know their child’s 11+ test result, prior to submitting the CAF, knowing in advance if grammar is an option. The deadline for online submission of this form is 31st October.

Here are a few tips to bear in mind when considering how to list school preferences.
Visit school open evenings in the coming weeks, meeting the Head and key staff to ensure you make an informed decision about your top choices in order of preference. By researching how likely you are to gain a place according to admissions criteria, for example proximity to the school gates or religious conditions, list at least one realistic, acceptable fall-back school, where a place is guaranteed.

Due to the equal preference system the schools will not know in what order you placed them on the form, so stick to your true order of preference. Your application to each school will be treated individually and given full consideration, according to their admissions code.

Fill in all the spaces on the form if you feel necessary, especially if there is a school you certainly don’t want. Leaving gaps on the form may mean you will be allocated a school of the admissions authority’s choosing, if you don’t secure a place in any of the schools you listed.